What Are Some Tips To Keep The Spark Alive After Having Kids?
These helpful tips are designed to help couples keep or regain the spice after having children. Consistency, effort, time and seeing the importance for trying from both parties is key.
Samantha’s Tip: Knowing each other as individuals and having acceptance for your partner is one of the main fundamentals for any relationship to work.
1. Accept That Relationships Change
Being realistic about changes that will and have happened within your partnership after having kids is healthy; talk about these changes. Couples should talk about things you both want to work on and things you want to add or change. Both individuals should realize that this new phase is not an excuse to let themselves go, not have sex or not work on building their relationship.
2. Have A Few Bedroom Rules
Keep the bedroom kid-free
This tip will do great wonders in the end; this will help you, your spouse, and your child's development. Please encourage your child to sleep in their crib or bed; try not to promote co-sleeping from the start so that it does not develop into a habit. The more sleep your toddler has in their bed or crib can help them feel like a big kid, independent, and build a good sense of self.
Have a few bedroom habits
Keep your bed for your spouse to sleep, cuddle, have sex, and have a light talk.
Try to keep the television, laptops, or phones off for a few hours each night and spend some time together with your spouse.
Never go to bed angry.
Talk through things before going to sleep.
Find a fair compromise that can smooth things over.
3. Do Joint Hobbies Together
Couples can feel more connected when they engage in new experiences or complete tasks together. Doing things as a team can help spark new dependency, caring, and thinking emotions. Doing a joint hobby outside the home can help couples see each other in different lights, thus creating new attractions, appreciation, and sex appeal. Mutual hobbies can help couples appreciate their partner’s unique qualities, knowledge, and abilities.
When choosing joint hobbies
Keep it gender-neutral.
Both individuals are participating.
That you both partook in deciding on.
Find one on a day you both can make and are not too tired.
Just for the two of you, don’t bring your kids.
That encourages working together as a team.
4. Find Easy Ways To Spice Things Up
Role-play
This tip can help keep a healthy and consistent sexual connection for couples.
Meet up for a coffee date during your lunch break at a new spot.
Have a home night of fun and sexy dancing, and choose music such as Salsa and Reggaetón.
Wear something a bit sexy and fun for an in-house meal date.
Laugh together
Making time to go down memory lane with your spouse about funny, exciting, and fun memories can help remind you of the joys of being together. Reminisce about fun times and funny stories within your dating period and have a good laugh together.
Hold hands when walking
Holding hands is an easy way to stay connected and feel a sense of togetherness. In addition, holding hands is a non-verbal way to convey warmth, caring, love, acceptance, and comfort to the other person. Also, it re-communicates to the world that this is the person you love.
5. Have Lots Of C, I, P
Every romantic relationship should have intimacy, commitment, and passion as building blocks. However, a safe balance for a long, healthy, satisfying relationship is when both individuals have a balanced view. This balanced view consists of spouses appreciating their partner's qualities and uniqueness while still loving themselves and knowing who they are.
Commitment. Each spouse should feel warmth, love, and care for the other's well-being.
Intimacy and passion. Each spouse should feel love and intimacy for their spouse. Both these feelings are essential in a healthy sexual relationship.