How Parents Can Keep The Spark After Having A Child?
Samantha’s tip: Starting by listening to your spouse can make such a difference. Show them that you care about their concerns, thoughts, and suggestions.
1. Make Your Partner Feel Special
Do something sweet and kind for your spouse. For example, play their favourite song, make them breakfast, make them a cup of coffee, ask them to help choose an outfit for date night, or cook them their favourite meal.
Tips for doing with this
Use sexier language such as baby, sweetheart, or Hunny.
Embrace the art of compromising.
Don’t take yourself too seriously, have fun.
Bring On The Surprises
Find simple ways to surprise your spouse within the weeks, it can be something minor, medium, or large, but it should be unexpected. Try to choose surprises that your spouse will like and will be happy with when they see or experience them.
Tips to do with this
Plan a walk and lunch date on the town so your spouse can dress up and be shown off.
Don't be a one-show pony; sometimes, change up your look and read up on new things to try.
Do at least one sizeable monthly surprise so your spouse feels spoiled.
Surprise your spouse with a new look.
2. Find Daily Things To Zap That Spark
Things for both spouses to do
Flirt with each other throughout the day. This can be done by saying cute comments, doing non-verbal actions, or both.
Be playful with each other, share some funny jokes and make each other laugh.
Talk about things other than your child, or work.
Take turns actively listening to each other.
Give each other some independent space.
Look clean and somewhat groomed around the house.
Make time to do something special together at home without your children. This can be as simple as sitting and having a snack together.
See every day as a celebration of your love, and do something to show love to each other.
Work as a team.
Observe your spouse and get to know them better.
Have your own identity, likes, and hobbies.
Learn how to compromise, and do trade-offs. For example ‘‘’ll do all the laundry, but if you can cook one day out of the week, that would be great”.
Talk about your similarities and differences and be ok with them,
Do things and go places that you both enjoy.
Monthly Ideas To Spark Feelings Back
Things for both spouses to do
Do a monthly date night, dress up and go out.
Have mini dances, sing fun songs, and listen to music with each other in the car. Go for an afternoon or night drive somewhere, turn up the music, sing out loud, and pack some goodies.
Place a sexy picture of you in a spot your spouse can see daily.
Take a shower together and have some alone time together.
Females
Let your spouse watch as you: work out, take a shower/bath, rub on your lotion, and put on a sexy dress.
Walk around the house in heels and something cute.
Take time to self-groom and keep your hygiene.
Say ‘‘thank you’’ for things your spouse does around the house, no matter how small.
Keep and do a few traditional roles within your home.
Let him feel he is the man and give him chances to do male things and be the male.
Cook and keep a clean home.
Work out and keep up your looks.
Have sex with your spouse.
Males
Act, protect and provide like an Alpha man.
Take time to self-groom, work out and keep your hygiene.
Do little surprises for your women.
Bring on the sexy compliments.
Spend on her. Give your spouse flowers just because.
Say ‘‘thank you’’ for things your spouse does around the house, no matter how small.
Give time to your spouse to be and keep up her femininity.
Have sex with your spouse.